Sakeena, we hope someday you will be able to experience the wonder of having Jesus in your life. Best wishes to you.

April,
I am so sorry for the ridiculously late response to your post. I was very, very sick when you posted this comment and am still trying to catch up with all the things I missed during that time. THANK YOU for taking the time to write this comment. It warms my heart that something here could be helpful for you. You know Whom to thank for that kind of tender mercy! God bless.

Hello Gospel,

I remember *feeling* pressure when I was of childbearing age, but what I came to understand was that that was not *doctrine.* That was me feeling afraid of the process of engaging in decision-making that was right for our situation, and learning to lay down the fear of what others thought.

That’s all easier said than done, but each couple has the responsibility to work with each other and with God to make these decisions.

And the reality is that every person, and every family, and every situation is different.

Some people struggle in large families, some don’t.
Some struggle in small families, some don’t.
Some leaders in our church have lots of children, some don’t.

Just as you hope to not be judged for “only” having three (your words), please don’t judge those who choose otherwise. Part of the teaching of the Church is that we shouldn’t judge each other on these kinds of things.

Thank you for another example of how perspectives on this vary widely among people of faith. 🙂