Every story is different, and there are many in Sexaholics Anonymous or other programs who come without a belief in God and who over time come to believe in a power greater than themselves. There is always hope where there is a willingness to admit the problem and get help. That help doesn’t have to come through LDS resources; for some, their journey may take them elsewhere for a time. Of course, the power of the principle of the Atonement can make a big difference, but your husband is in God’s hands. Trust your husband to His care and continue to seek strength and healing for yourself.

There are many women who have walked a similar path with husbands who struggle with their faith. You might consider connecting with them at hopeandhealinglds.com/forum or ldsaddictionrecoveryblogs.blogspot.com. Other resources include the Togetherness Project, Addo Recovery (neither of those is an LDS resource but many LDS women use these resources), and healingthroughchrist.org

As a female sex addict (yes, they do exist), I have begun the process of recovery.

The process of sex addiction recovery is three-fold. First, he needs a good therapist, one who is trained as a CSAT (certified sex addiction therapist). Second, he needs to attend group therapy with that CSAT and his/her other sex addicts. Third, he needs to attend SLAA (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous) meetings.

Whether the addiction is porn and masturbation only, or whether it includes actual affairs, your husband is still a sex addict and needs all of these aspects of the recovery process.

Finding a GOOD CSAT is very very important. Therapy can’t be undervalued.

I don’t think I said anything about anyone being perfect, or that we ought not to experience trials and sadness. What I did say is that the majority of young women are preparing themselves as best they can for their future marriage and family – but the chances of them being married to a man who is not worthy of them are very high, higher than they’ve ever been. This is not a mild complaint, like a husband not doing his home teaching, or a husband who has a problem controlling his temper, or even a husband who doesn’t like to attend church. These husbands are all-but cheating on their wives on at least a monthly basis. Matt 5:28 says, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Over 50% of the men between 18-35 in the church are involved in that kind of behavior at least once every month. Nothing else that women do or face compares to that.

It is a scourge unlike anything the church, or the world, has ever faced before. And until Sister Reeves’ talk in Conference last weekend, so very little in the way of official church – HQ messages had ever been said to women about it. I am so grateful for that talk that we heard. It may have been the first time that recovery programs (12 step) were ever mentioned in a general meeting.

I am glad to hear of those resources that are out there that are geared toward single women. But the problem is – they have to know to look for those resources to begin with. Apart from parents doing their duty by their children, the only other way girls are going to hear this counsel is by an open and frank discussion in their YW or Singles Ward RS meetings.

http://www.hopeandhealinglds.com/2012/08/27/for-those-datingengaged-to-a-someone-who-has-dealt-with-pornsex-addictioncompulsion/

Here are some resources, too, for those who are in dating mode. There is more to come along these lines!