Comments on: Facing trials with faith: Divorced at 21 https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/ Who We Are, What We Believe, How We Live -- Glimpses into Latter-day Saint Life Tue, 14 Jan 2014 15:28:33 +0000 hourly 1 By: Claire https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/comment-page-1/#comment-78764 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 15:28:33 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=13670#comment-78764 Thank you so much for this! My divorce was finalized two weeks before my 21st birthday. I sometimes feel very alone in this. I know people who are divorced, but I felt so broken to be divorced at the ripe old age of 20. I too, can say that it was the hardest, most painful, heart-wrenching thing that I have ever been through, but a year later, I am still here and still standing. My strength comes from a God who is bigger than all the anger, hurt, and lonely that I feel.

]]> By: Autumn Excell https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/comment-page-1/#comment-78741 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 04:17:10 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=13670#comment-78741 Kenna, I got to see your message because my dear, loving, and supporting Mom sent it to me via E-mail. I too am a young, recently, divorced woman that has a beautiful, loving, highly energetic, 3 almost 4 year old son. I love him to pieces and have had to keep my life, and emotions in check especially in front of him. I have had multiple times that I have wanted to “throw in the towel” myself on the whole divorce because it got very dark, and hard for me as well. It really tore me down especially since I was down visiting family with my son when I discovered an email that my ex-husband sent me. I was in tears and couldn’t sleep that night. I finally turned to my bishop, and the Lord to help me find comfort, peace, and love. Though it took me about 17 months to get my divorce finalized I don’t think I would ever go back to him for anything because looking back I know there is nothing there for me to feel loved, or like I mean anything. I as well as you are looking for a new adventure in life that makes me hope and pray that I will find the right guy for me in the near future.
From one divorced young mother to you ….. I hope and pray that you and I will be blessed for what we stand for in still being a member of Christ’s true church!

]]> By: Marie https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/comment-page-1/#comment-78732 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 20:42:58 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=13670#comment-78732 Thank you so much for sharing your story. I, too have felt the pain of divorce, though I am much older than you. I struggled to find peace and the feeling that I would “make it”. It has been 13 years now. I still struggle some days, but I KNOW my Heavenly Father loves me and everything will work out in the eternities. You are a brave and beautiful woman, and this experience will only make you stronger!

]]> By: Marty Ccollins https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/comment-page-1/#comment-78730 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 19:43:53 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=13670#comment-78730 My heart goes out to you sis. Christensen, for your husband to give up on his commitment at such a tender age underlines to me how unprepared for marriage some of these boys are, more should be done to raise these boys better. I see the same kind of thing happening in our stake (in Australia) wonderful young sisters so well prepared for life and marriage as part of it having to choose from boys(not men yet) who have hardly given a preparatory thought to this wonderful institution of marriage. I pray that you will find a brother who is willing to work with heavenly Father to make a success of married life. They are out there although oftimes they are “hidden” because they are fulfilling a calling or home teaching or helping out an elderly widow all this instead of prancing around from ward to ward or admiring themselves in a gym somewhere.

Hope that this helps
Marty Collins.

]]> By: Ben https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/comment-page-1/#comment-78726 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 18:52:13 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=13670#comment-78726 Thank you. Going through a very difficult time. I’m not inclined to share details in a public forum but this was important for me to hear right now.

]]> By: Bethany https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/comment-page-1/#comment-78717 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 17:12:13 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=13670#comment-78717 It is a hard thing for people who have not been in a similar position to understand that it takes 2 to make a marriage work, but only 1 person to make a divorce happen.

You can want to be married with everything you’ve got, and be working your heart out to be a good spouse, and to have a great marriage . . . . but if your spouse doesn’t want to be married anymore there isn’t a darn thing you can do about it.

I am sorry that you had to find this out the hard way. However I am happy that you had the Savior and the gospel to help you thru this tough time. Like my Mom always says This too shall pass!!

]]> By: Alan https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/comment-page-1/#comment-78714 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 14:56:50 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=13670#comment-78714 Thank you for all that you have shared. And thank you for your honesty and openness.

]]> By: helen easton https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/comment-page-1/#comment-78686 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 05:35:34 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=13670#comment-78686 Kenna, my niece has just sent this beautiful message of yours on to me. I’m LDS have for past 24. Yrs and although not divorced, my husband of 49 yrs past on 4 yrs ago. I would like to show your message to sisters in my ward that have been and still are in the same position as you have been and how your very insipiring message could help them. I love this Gospel, I know that my Heavenly Father and. Jesus Christ my Savior lives. You are special in my niece Arlene Tompkins live, she talks about you often may be between the two of us we can get her back into the gospel. I still live in South Africa but it does not prevent me from trying. Thank you and God bless you. Helen

]]> By: marsha scofield https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/comment-page-1/#comment-78684 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 04:54:52 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=13670#comment-78684 I could relate to this story so very well. I have gone through two divorces and both of them were devastating to me. I remember praying so hard for the Lord to take some of the pain from me so that I could smile that day and be a good mother to my 3 children. Before a finished my prayer I could feel some of the pain be lifted from my heart. There were many times when I was praying so fervently for help from my Father in Heaven and my Savior that when I finished the prayer and opened my eyes I expected to see Christ standing at the foot of my bed. Prayer, my testimony, my faith, and my family were the only thing that got me through those long, lonely nights and months. The gospel is the greatest blessing in my life, then come my children and my grandchildren. I am blessed.!!

]]> By: Katie Slay https://womenseekingchrist.org/2014/01/12/facing-trials-with-faith-divorced-at-21/comment-page-1/#comment-78672 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 01:57:42 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=13670#comment-78672 This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m not going through a divorce but these words filled my heart. I feel the Holy Ghost every time I read anything you write. I’m grateful that one day you randomly followed me on instagram so I could follow you too. You have blessed my life and I’ve never met you face to face but I’ve already felt your sweet spirit. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

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