Comments on: Poetry: “After the Funeral” https://womenseekingchrist.org/2010/07/21/after-the-funeral/ Who We Are, What We Believe, How We Live -- Glimpses into Latter-day Saint Life Sun, 22 Aug 2010 15:53:58 +0000 hourly 1 By: leNae Onstad https://womenseekingchrist.org/2010/07/21/after-the-funeral/comment-page-1/#comment-28410 Sun, 22 Aug 2010 15:53:58 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=6641#comment-28410 Unfortunately, I am in the business of life and death, I am a chaplain by trade. The one thing I tell my families is that there is no right way and no wrong way to grieve. Grief is as individual as how we each live our lives. If people judge us, it is their way of being uncomfortable with death and dying.

Being “unconventional” by others standards may be normal by your family’s standards. If my brother could have planned his own funeral he would have played the music from Star Wars, which is what we did, to honor him. It was, a celebration of his life and he lived his life loving science fiction. To all of you free spirits out there, celebrate and live your lives, and when your time comes to leave this life, celebrate the life you lived in any way choose without judgement or fear of reprisals.

“Men are that they might have joy” we are told. Find your joy!

]]> By: Heather L. https://womenseekingchrist.org/2010/07/21/after-the-funeral/comment-page-1/#comment-24580 Wed, 21 Jul 2010 16:19:46 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=6641#comment-24580 I love this! I hope to live my life & share my testimony such that my family will know that “Death …is only like going into another room. In that other room we shall find … the dear women and men and the sweet children we have loved and lost.” (Robert Blatchford, as quoted by President Thomas S. Monson)
And I hope they will sing and dance for joy in that knowledge!

]]> By: Still miss my son https://womenseekingchrist.org/2010/07/21/after-the-funeral/comment-page-1/#comment-24559 Wed, 21 Jul 2010 11:11:52 +0000 http://mormonwoman.org/?p=6641#comment-24559 There is always someone there to judge the appropriateness of your mourning. Two weeks after my son died someone told me I needed to just get over it. We all mourn in our own way. How ’bout comforting those in need of comfort rather than judging. Sometimes the comforting comes in a dance.

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