Shelly, it was great to hear back from you. Thank you for your kindness and prayers. We have been praying for you as well. Please know that you are welcome here anytime, if you have questions or just would like to discuss some of the general principles, or even just life in general. The content here is varied, so we hope you can find things that you enjoy reading.

We sincerely wish you the best in your spiritual journey and hope you will feel God’s guidance and love as you make these important decisions at an important time in your life.

We hope you will keep in touch and let us know how your life unfolds a bit. Take care, and thank you again for being willing to present a question for input here. As we said, you are welcome to do that again.

God bless,
Michelle

In the nineties, (when I was fifty two), when the Communists ceased to govern, I bought a Bible, because it was fashionable, and I read a piese of it. But it was for me very difficult to read, and understand, so I have postponed for a short time. I was an ordinary Czech woman, tired by the everyday rush. Children no longer lived, And I, lived with My husband alone. The daily charge, to and from work, evening watching TV, sometimes on a Saturday visit to the children or friends …
When, in January 2003, I met Jesus Church. It was special. It started one morning, on the way to work in the tram, I read the various ads and among them I found one, hrat offers free English lessons. I wrote the phone number and when I returned home from work, so I have to number call. The voice that answered, I called for the opening lesson of English. When I came to the agreed place, I saw a sign that says The Church of Jesus Christ Holy recent days. I thought it addressed. When I knocked on the door, opened up my two girls. It was special, but I saw how those girls shone. Neither can not describe it, but I saw the light. It was something amazing. I can remember what we speak in English, but very well remember that I was invited on the Saturday closest to the “Open Day”. With curiosity, I set out there on Saturday with my husband. I learned something about American pioneers, who in the 19th century go to the west. I also learned about genealogy and family history. All this was very interesting. We were invited the following day, on Sunday to the church congregation. When leaving I took half a booklet, and the husband took a book. I’d like the book itself never, because I know that books are rare and can not just book without someone gave it to me. At home I read the booklet, it was the testimony of Joseph Smith. His testimony struck me and I wanted to learn more. On Sunday I went with eagerness to the Church meeting. My husband did not want to go. I never experience something like that. It was amazing. Soon the missionaries and took me to answer my questions. From that day on the Sunday the congregation came to me very important and I started going to Church regularly. I started to read the book of Mormon, and I still thad had something to inquire about. I began to converse with our Heavenly Father in my prayers. To have us missionaries went home and taught me the gospel. I knew Joseph Smith was chosen to restare the Church of Jesus here on earth. I know also that the Book of Mormon gives us the fullness of the Gospel. Once the missionaries asked me whether I fear baptism. It took me by surprise, and I failed to respond. I consulted with Heavenly Father, But I didn´t get an answer. When once, when I was at the first meeting where they were babtism of two girls. Suddenly, I longed to be baptized also. I realized that God gave me the opportunity to know the gospel. I realized that the most important thing to do is move forward. And that can only by baptism. I felt immense love in my heart and gratitude.
24. May 2003 I was babtized.i wull never forget that day and I will always be grateful for the opportunity my Heavenly Father offered me. My life has changed a lot. Many I understand and many are still learning. Today I know who I am, why am I here and where I will. I know also that the most important things are faith, hope and love. Today I feel so much love, how much I feel for all my life. A love, which charged me feel even more love to return to all around him. I am happy when I can help anyone around me. I am pleased when I teach with the missionaries, when I teach the children in primary, when I ask for the turning of the speech to the Assembly. When I organize trips for members and non-members … You could say that I am walking with God. Book of Mormon help me a lot, and help me a lot of brothers and sisters not only in our turn, but in the Czech Republic. Many I have met in the temple and the various joint actions. A lot of my help missionaries and help me a lot of authority in the SLC. I am grateful for temples. I am grateful for that, I could perform rites for their parents and grandparents as well as your first husband. Whenever I stand before a decision to pray in spirit and I think how would be make the Jesus Christ preserve. In prayers, I thanks for all the gifts from Heavenly Father. In the first place, thank Him for Jesus Christ. And thank Him for all the gifts, and also the tests. Daily I ask Heavenly Father to soften the heart my husband and children, so they will turn to God and know Jesus Christ. I believe that I will be married to my husband in the temple …
„Behold, he sendeth an invitation unto all men, for the arms of mercy are extended towards them, and he saith: Repent, and I willreceive you.“ (Alma 5:33)

I think that the most important thing for you to do right now is not to worry about your boyfriend. Continue developing your relationship with Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. Pray, Pray, Pray. Your prayers will be answered. Think of Heavenly Father as a father with a perfect love for his child. forgiving and patient. He knows and understands all of your concerns. He’s just waiting for you to come to him with them. He loves your boyfriend too. He may or may not be what the Lord has in store for you, but either way, just go with the flow, do the best you can and as you develop your relationship with Heavenly Father, step by step, you will be lead carefully in the right direction. As you act on faith, it will grow. Life can feel so uncertain and scary when it comes to making big decisions, but knowing that you followed what you felt was the will of the Lord will give you peace and endurance.

I think the Lord manifests himself in different ways, but for me the consistancy, in retrospect, is peace and chaos.. in other words, everything around me can be chaos, and logically it may not make sence or it might just be a mess, too hard, and overwhelming.. Chaos. But something inside me feels peaceful, comfortable, natural. And that’s when I know it’s right. On the other hand something might seem right, feel good, make logic sence, but something inside just doesn’t click, or I have a “stupor of thought”, and that’s when I know it’s wrong.

As a Mormom Woman, my most valauble asset is the Gift of the Holy Ghost. As a mother in this exciting, yet confusing world, There are no words to describe my gratitude for the consistency in the teachings of the Gospel of
Jesus Christ. We have so many resources to help us strengthen our family relationships and learn how to be better parents. I feel like I have an anchor in this crazy storm called life. The light of Christ is something we’re all born with. It’s what leads us to him, and helps us to discern right and wrong. The companionship of the Holy Ghost is a gift you recieve when you’re baptized. He is a teacher, a comforter, a guide. He comunicates with your spirit the things that the Lord wants you to know to help you. As a mother I need it. I would be lost without it, and I am so thankful for it.

When it comes to your boyfriend, there are a millioin sinarios. We do the best we know how, having faith in the Lord, and when we mess up, “just keep swimmin’ ”

One more thing: I have always been a music lover, but have recently discovered the power of uplifting music. Music that provokes spiritual thought is like a drug to me.. My mind is instantly put a frame of peace and spiritual contemplation. Check out Mindy Gledhill. I also love Switchfoot (“on fire” is my fav.) I’m not saying give up the stuff that gets you movin’, just an idea.

Good luck with everything.

I was wondering if you have talked with your boyfriend about spiritual things? Have you talked with him about what his beliefs are about family, God and religion? Do they match yours? These are good things to talk about in any serious relationship.

I can tell you that having a husband that has supported me in my faith has made me love him greater than I had previously imagined. The commenters have talked a lot about what it is to be a Mormon Woman in their responses. A Father’s role is just as integral to the progress of family members.

The Prophet and Apostles of our Church have written a Proclamation about the Family and its central role in God’s plan for His children. I will post it below. I suggest you read it together with your boyfriend and see if you agree with the principles taught therein.

I was going to give you a link, but was worried it wouldn’t work so I have put the entire document below.
If you do want to print it out, just cut and paste this address into your address bar. It will take you to the Proclaimation at our church website at LDS.org.

http://www.lds.org/library/display/0,4945,161-1-11-1,00.html

The Family: A Proclamation to the World

The First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

We, the First Presidency and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.

In the premortal realm, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshiped God as their Eternal Father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body and gain earthly experience to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize his or her divine destiny as an heir of eternal life. The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.

The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.

We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan.

Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalms 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.

The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.

We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.

We call upon responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.

This proclamation was read by President Gordon B. Hinckley as part of his message at the General Relief Society Meeting held September 23, 1995, in Salt Lake City, Utah.